Speed is very important for two reasons. First, if you don’t approach within the first few seconds of seeing her, you’ll most probably talk yourself out of it. Second, if she sees you watching her and if you take too long to approach, she’ll know you had to work up the courage and it immediately puts you in a slightly inferior position in her mind. Of course, there are contexts where you can’t approach her immediately but you should aim to do it as fast as you can. Ideally literally within seconds.
When it comes to confidence, men tend to overdo it because they think they have to very overtly irradiate it. The thing is that women have developed a very acute sense for this and can very quickly pick up on dishonest displays of confidence. It’s no rocket science… If you approach quickly, if you have a smile on your face and if you lean back, touch her on her forearm from time to time and reduce nervous twitches to a minimum you should do great.
At first you have to be very playful. Tease her a bit and smile but don’t overdo it. Make sure you mainly amuse yourself. Don’t try to impress her, she will be amused if your goal is to have fun yourself. Generally it’s not good to tell too many jokes because she’ll view you as a funny friend. Instead try to tease her, make some jokes at her expense and smile.
You should have a giving attitude which means that you don’t think of the approach in terms of wanting to get something from her but rather come from a mindset of she’ll be getting a lot from you… if she’s cool enough.
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