Women who are really secure are confident, not arrogant. Men can smell the difference and a confident woman is flat out sexy.
What makes a woman confident is when she has the ability to live a centered life. She believes in herself and her dreams. She goes out and does something great and she absolutely, unequivocally does not hang on a man’s attention or opinion.
Sometimes confidence is tested when you meet a man who appears to draw you in. There’s a tendency to lean in too much because he seems so intriguing.
And this is where NOT being nice aka a doormat come into play. Men are flattered by nice women but they hardly find anything fascinating about them.
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